WATCH: Are Martin & Gina “Equals” and Will that Matter? | Episode 7

There is a very strong possibility that insecurity may set in with the person who is not formally educated if he or she doesn’t address it.

By Diana Ozemebhoya Eromosele

This is Part 2 of a 6-part analysis of Martin and Gina’s relationship.

Let’s not forget that for much of their relationship, Gina was a white-collar professional working as an advertising and marketing executive, while Martin was a lesser-known radio disc jockey who didn’t go to college. Sylvia E. Rosario sees African-American couples like Martin and Gina come into her office with similar dynamics.

The problem is not so much that one person is mad at the other for being better educated but that typically, the person without a formal education cannot articulate themselves in the same manner as their partner, and that causes communication problems. Rosario advises black women (because they’re typically the formally-educated partner) to avoid becoming involved with men that they are not equally yolked with, especially if both individuals are not ready to do the extra work to address those disparities.

Experts Featured:

(1) Drew Joseph, MA, LMFT, provides individual and couple therapy to adults in Washington, DC. His therapeutic methods are informed by psychodynamic psychology and Shambhala Buddhism. Learn more about Drew Joseph here.

(2) Laurel Fay, M.S., LCMFT, is a Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of Laurel Fay & Associates, LLC. Ms. Fay has a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Child and Family Studies from Syracuse University, and a Masters of Science degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Maryland at College Park. She is also an Approved Supervisor and Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).Ms. Fay is specially trained to work with couples, particularly around marital, communication and intimacy issues. Fay has given workshops on couple and family relationships for several organizations, including the Pro Bono Counseling Project; she is also a business coach for private practitioners, and is a frequent presenter on the topic of starting and growing a practice. She is the current President of the Middle Atlantic Division of the AAMFT, and she has been in private practice since 2001. Follow Laurel on Twitter at @laurelfay

(3) Sylvia E. Rosario, M.Ed, is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of her private practice based in Washington D.C. as a practicing psychotherapist and specialist in Marriage and Family therapy. She is committed to working with individuals, couples and families who are seeking to enhance and improve the quality of their lives. Mrs. Rosario was appointed to the District of Columbia, Board of Marriage and Family Therapy on December 7, 2012 , her term to expire January 3, 2015. You can learn more about her here.


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